Thursday, December 13, 2007
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
We're in that restaurant - that Alain Ducasse restaurant - at the top of Mandalay Bay. We meet some boys. Men actually. Europeans, tall, slick and somewhat feminine, just the way I like my men. They are chatting us up, with indistinct accents, and we naturally ask them where they are from. I figure they are Dutch, because the Dutch have nebulous accents. They say:
My sister almost spits out her drink. She begins furiously whispering, "The Hague. What the hell is the Hague?! I'm from The Florida! Are they making this up?"
So I look at her, and under my breath, through the side of my mouth, with my eyebrow raised in that "Hey little sis pay attention right now" sort of way, I hiss: "World court, just go with it."
Later, when we have a moment, I give her a brief and what I thought (in my drunken state) was accurate portrayal of The Hague. I said, "It's where the World Court is, one of those ridiculous little countries like Luxembourg that exists in Europe. Its near France and Belgium."
She was thoroughly impressed, and we left it at that.
She brought up this story last week, still thoroughly impressed and also very giggly about the whole thing, saying, "I was so uncool...I thought they were lying...I was ready to call them out on this Hague thing and you were like, shush shush not cool, not cool...icksnay on the Ague-Hay"
She then said, "That part of Europe just befuddles me. The Dutch? The Hague? Belgium? I can't tell the difference."
My response was, "Belgium is the country that is like France but really the Frank Stallone version of France and has great beer..."
So I got to thinking, just today, you know, I don't think I was right about The Hague. And I personally didn't think I could effectively explain where The Hague is in relation to Holland.
So I wiki'ed it, and sent her this missive. I think I'll include it to school you guys, although maybe I was the only one confused.
So...I was curious about the difference between Holland, The Netherlands, The Hague, and Belgium after our discussion last week. I discovered that:
It is the seat of government but alas not the capital. It is home to Royal Dutch Shell and the World Court. People like to say they are from the Hague b/c it is such a seat of international diplomatic power, heavily associated with the UN and the World Court, and is considered a very special, almost separate, part of the Netherlands. The Dutch Queen resides in The Hague. It is never referred to as Hague, always "The Hague." You sound so much more elitist saying you come from The Hague. Go ahead, say it. You'll see what I mean.
Holland used to be considered a country but is now a northern region in the Netherlands. The Netherlands overall border Belgium and Germany and are known for its rampant liberalism, rave parties, tulips, prostitution and fabulous, readily-available weed and hash. It's heaven. But I digress. The Dutch is also a term that can be used to describe people from the Netherlands, and they speak Dutch (also known as Flemish.)
This is why it is all so confusing: you can refer to the Dutch, the Flemish, Holland and the Netherlands and even The Hague and you are referring to mostly the same thing. Ahh the Dutch. Nigel Powers was right when he said to Goldmember:
Belgium further fucks with your head in a related way.
It is a separate country, on the other side of France known for its beer (500 breweries) and chocolate (Godiva) and horrible battles in WWII. People here speak Flemish (Dutch) and French depending upon geographic location. Are you taking notes?
Luxembourg is another problem, located between the Netherlands, Belgium and France. People here speak German, French and Luxembourgish -all three required for graduation from secondary school. I can't find anything interesting about this country except that it is small and very catholic and if you are from here, you sound just as snobby as when you say, "I am from The Hague." Go ahead, say it. You'll again see what I mean.
All three countries form the Benelux region (Belgium, Netherlands, Luxembourg.)
To further confuse, there is another small , very catholic country, Liechtenstein, that borders Switzerland and Austria. Here they speak German too and have one of the world's highest standards of living. The only interesting thing about the country is they are a tax haven, but saying you are from Liechtenstein doesn't sound quite on par with saying you hail from Luxembourg.
Don't you feel smarter now? I do.
Monday, November 26, 2007
I did go out that next night, but it was an early one. Met up with friends. Drinks at Sullivan's. Early ride home.
Next night, threw a dinner party for my friend T's b-day, had three people plus me. We drank 7 bottles of wine between the four of us. It was a blast, and I am ever cognizant of the fact that I like drinking at my house/my friend's house more than I like going out.
Went to Philly. The trip I was dreading turned out to be, really, lovely. No drama. Monday night in DC at my ex hubby's - he and his wife were great hosts to mini me and I and broke up the trip nicely. Arrived in Philly the next day at noon. Shopping. My hugely, wonderfully preggers sis looking radiant and sweet - two words I rarely use to describe her. I cooked for 18 people on Thursday and my dad and I pulled off that 25 pound turkey and all the accoutrements quite well.
About 3/4 the way through that cooking, I broke into the Maker's. Had to. All the guests were drinking cosmos and martinins. I felt left out and also stressed. I was fairly lit when I decided to go out with my brother in law and his cousin.
Side note: the cousin was totally eyeing me all day. 5 minutes after arriving my brother in law was like, hey, CT over there digs you. I'm like, ahh okay. He looked cute, but in a boring, I am a sporty guy lunkhead kind of way. And he's like 28. He said I was cute in front of my brother in law and their grandmother, and her response was:
Well said, grandma, well said. I needed to hear that.
This fact, however, did not stop me later. Bourbon and proximity had me kissing him quite passionately AT THE BAR when my brother in law hit the head. Egads! What the hell. He's a former arena football player. He lives in the middle of PA somewhere.
Unfortunately, he likes me. He stayed at my sis' house (on the couch) and we all breakfasted together the next morning. He also watched The Little Mermaid with me and my niece who is 4. This is fine for me to do - I'm a mom, the little girl loves me to watch cartoons with her, I was hungover so 90 minutes on the couch seemed like a might fine way to pass the morning. He sat there and watch the whole thing, Then left. Then called his cousin three times to get my number and see if we were coming out that night. He'd drive 90 minutes to hang out with us.
That's not the end. Many texts. Several messages on MySpace. Oy Vey! I think we'll call him Arena Football.
Got a nice text exchange with Mr MLB on turkey day. Then he asked me out for Sat night but alas I wasn't back in town.
Got a nice text from Pirate Guy/Prison Break - finally - on turkey day. Then I got one on MySpace today. Game back on?
Concert boy asked me to a hockey game during last week but alas again I wasn't here. He asked me out while I was up in Philly for a game coming up this Friday. We're set for that. Then he texted me a bunch today. Then he called. He played the piano over the phone to me. Hmm. He's stepped up, perhaps? We'll see.
Writer boy from NYC called last night. Wanting to talk, wanting to share turkey day stories. We couldn't connect - I couldn't talk when he called and then he was out with friends. Text at end of the night that said:
To wrap things up, the quote in the title is from, of all things, the Grey's Anatomy episode last week. The real quote was:
I changed it, ever so slightly, because it fits so well as a description of jackass of all trades. But I don't really need to explain that to any of you.
Saturday, November 17, 2007
I think its three things:
- My impending birthday (inherently depressing, and last year was the beginning of getting back together with the lame ass ex...I could have done without the last year)
- More research into my hearing loss (re-visiting my very limited options and getting devastated over this all over again)
- Visiting my family in Philly next week (my mother hates when I am single and actually liked my ex; I don't have the heart to tell her the things that everybody else knows about him...my father knows little of the details about him but doesn't like him at all)
So I haven't been writing. Anything. I've done more research for my book (re watching The War, spending way too much time on the Military Channel) but haven't written any more chapters or outlines. I have been working. And smoking. And coaching gymnastics. I didn't even go out last weekend. At all.
But I digress. The real reason the three to four of you out there that read this is for the updates.
Last Thursday night I went out and Pirate Boy/Prison Break came with us. Fun. Hibernian. Red Room. Amra. Weirdo old guys hitting on me and my friend J and Prison Break was busy fending them off. He seemed to like it. We got dropped off at our cars and I tried to beg off kissing him (as I had a cold and told him so) and he insisted on kissing me. It was good. Really nice.
I promptly got very sick the next morning when my cold took a turn towards sinus infection.
Perhaps the same thing happened to him, or he got cold feet b/c his divorce isn't final, or he doesn't like me. Regardless, its been cricket city from him. For a whole week. No texting. No MySpacing. No email. Nada.
So Friday. Went to the Dr. Did not go out. Thought I would rest up for my date on Sat. with Concert Boy for the UNC/NCSU game. Told him Friday night, yeah, I'm getting better. Tomorrow will be fine.
Oh no. Tomorrow was not fine. I woke up Saturday morning with a pounding headache, a crusty nose, a rattling chest, and my sinuses were so infected that my teeth hurt. Had to call and cancel. I sounded like Bea Arthur/Brenda Vaccaro calling him, and he was gracious about it. He checked in with me several times, through calls and texts. Attentive. I liked it.
Saturday night. Feeling better. Out to dinner with my friend J and her daughter. Text from Mr. MLB.
"Whatcha up to tonite..."
Now, I'm not gonna tell him that I'll most likely curl up with Hitchens and read all night. No. Gonna make him think I am the busy girl that I usually am.
"Going downtown with friends"
And his response:
"When you gonna come pick me up?"
And I said:
"Already downtown. You gotta give me some warning..."
And he said, "Tell your boyfriend I'm coming to hang out tonite..."
So my response was, truthfully:
"No boyfriend here. No worries on that one..."
And he said:
"Well I guess I'm just gonna have to say you have fun tonite since you are already out...ttyl"
And that was it. For Saturday.
Sunday, the text started again. He wanted advice on what car to buy for himself that week. The choices he gave me (as he said he wanted a "lady's opinion") were:
So, of course, I was honest but trying to be funny.
"Escalade rides nice but is so played out. Hummer's seem like they are driven by dorky corporate white guys with something to prove. Range rover just says, I have 4wd and the Queen owns one as well..."
He says he's going with Range Rover.
The day goes by, and I get a Facebook invite from him. I had just joined Facebook last week, so I thought that was funny. He created his profile that day, and it actually had his real occupation on it. So, with that, he was telling me: Lady! I play pro ball here. Look at me!
We email a few times that night. Overall, a lot of activity. He asked me to get some thing to eat that night, but I was busy and told him so.
He asked me that same question on Wednesday and Thursday nights. Both nights I was like no, can't (Wed I had a business dinner at the Umstead and Thursday I was just tired) because it was too last minute. He's in Houston this weekend, and before he left, told me he wishes I was coming with him. All I said to that was, yeah, we'd tear up that town. Maybe next time.
I am actually going to have to go out with him soon, last minute ask or not. I've never dated a pro athelete, and never had me some FLAY VAH either. I'd like to cross both those off the list.
So Concert Boy sends me pics from the game. The story with him is he gave his reg tickets to his friends, and bought special, 47 yard line, 4 rows up from the Carolina Bench (and he a wolfpacker, no less) for me and him. Ugh. Special seats for me. Very nice. He was gracious about it.
I still think, however, that we are each other's backburner person. He's at a wedding this weekend. No one goes to weddings alone.
That's all I got, but I'm going out tomorrow night. More stories to come.
Thursday, November 08, 2007
An interested party has confirmed that Mr. MLB is totally cute. He does not, however, play this position below:
Thanks, Hospital Diva, for the email. You're friend is right. Glad you are conspicuously Google-ing Mr. MLB for me and totally approve. I appreciate the thumbs up, and the readers probably like that you've verfied his delish status.
And he did indeed have some facial hair going when I met him at the airport...
Not a womb broom, like NYC Writer, but facial hair nonetheless.
Hate that I didn't see him last night. We'll see if anything comes of this. And if it doesn't, so what? I've had fun thinking about it.
Good news on the gymnastics is that I worked the full month of Oct, and even with taking off an hour on Halloween, my Nov. bill for tuition for mini-me was incredibly cheaper. 1/3 cheaper. Whoohoo. That four hours a week I put in is totally worth it to not pay over $300 every month.
And then, of course, there are the boys.
Sunday. I was online briefly, and concert boy sent me an IM. He had just finished his half marathon, and wanted to see if I wanted to go to the UNC/NCSU game the next Saturday. Hmmm. He's learning. Got me 6 days in advance. Whoohoo. Said yes, but told him I'm wearing blue this time and won't be rooting for the pack. He agreed but said I couldn't be obnoxious or his friends would ban me. (I'm worried...)
Didn't hear anything from Mr. MLB til Monday. Asked me to watch Monday Night Football, but I was hosting the jeans/cocktail party. We texted back and forth several times, and I told him I could maybe do something later in the week. He said, maybe Wednesday...and we left it at that
Prison Break guy was out of town this weekend and returned Monday afternoon. Asked me out, via email, on Monday night (around the same time I was texting, from the party, with Mr. MLB. Is there some sort of radar for this shit? I go through hours and hours with no emails, no texts, then bam they all arrive or contact me at the same time. But I digress...) for Thursday or Friday night.
Tuesday. My shit day at work. Had made plans to go out on Tuesday night with Rock Star, Philly Girl, T, Kirsten Dunst look alike girl, and a few other randoms for a random fun Tuesday night. Only three of us ended up meeting up - me, Philly and T. There was some crazy, funny drama at Ral Times where Philly Girl and Militant (remember her - read past posts) ran into each other and compared notes a bit as to what N the ex has been saying to them. Wow. I would not want to be in his shoes this week, that's all I can say. Karma is kicking him big time in the ass right now, and he's realizing how very small out town is. Meanwhile, T and I are just laughing about it.
Fun Girl btw is in study mode and is absent from our fun as of late.
While out and about with all the dramarama, I got a random text from Mr. MLB saying: "Hope you had a great day..." Hmm. We texted a bit. Tentatively made a date for Wednesday night for Tapas.
Wednesday. Prison break guy sends a random text saying, hey can we bring along friends when we go out on Thursday night? I text back, sure, I'll start rounding up the troops. I think to myself, hmm, he's wanting to keep it casual, our last date was one on one and he's worried about two of those in a row. Whatever, don't care, invited friends along (both mutual and one's he doesn't know) and he did the same and we'll hang. I've got patience for this one.
Around noon, Mr. MLB says, sorry, can't make it afterall. We're trying to reschedule now. Disappointed but knew it was tentative anyway.
Mr. Concert guy asks me to meet him at Crowleys. I don't b/c I don't feel well enough after the dinner I had with one of my friends at the Angus Barn.
I get an email from NYC writer guy last night, asking me to visit or for him to come down here. I wrote back saying I miss Macdougal Street. He wrote, and I quote:
Yup. I got it. He used loins in a sentence and managed to put a smile on my face as I fell asleep last night.
Monday, November 05, 2007
Concert boy, post hook up, has asked me to two hockey games and I've had to turn him down twice b/c of other plans. And just when I thought, man he's falling off the list, he asks me to next Saturday's NCSU game against UNC. It's UNC - I gotta go!
Prison Break guy went to Florida last Thursday for a boys weekend. Got some emails right up until he left. Woke up this morning with an alert on my Blackberry ("prison break guy has left you a comment on MySpace") and I get all excited. Dork. I go and look, and its one of those phishing comments for a Macy's card. Not a real comment. Felt dumb for being so excited. Just got over it and decided to blog.
Punk boy sent a random Happy Halloween comment to me - the Misfits playing a song he found off of YouTube- random but nonetheless brightened my day. Again, I'm a dork.
N the ex. Still up to his confusing tricks with the women in his life. Whatever, I've said my peace to him. We had a boys night out on Friday that was fun but low-key. But Dos Taquitos downtown sucks in terms of portions and no chips/salsa.
Met a new guy in the airport Friday. When I was dropping off mini-me for her trip to DC, he was there taking his four year old back to Philly and then turning around and coming back here on the next flight. We've emailed and exchanged numbers, but that's about it. The thing is, he didn't say what he does...just that he lives here only four months out of the year and also lived in Atlanta for college (we bonded over stories about kids and Atlanta).
So who works 8 months out of the year. Some consultants. College professors. And MLB players.
Yup, that's right. He's number 3 of that list, found him via a few snippets of info (first name, college, and the fact that he lived in NYC for 4 years) and confimed it via photo on a team roster. Said roster also confirmed him as single. He's cute, has probably 1-2 seasons left in his career. Plays for a shitty team that I used to love growing up. I had no idea who he was when we were talking in the airport. He was a cute dad with an adorable 4 year old. He lives in N. Raleigh, about 4 miles from me. We'll see where this one goes...
I should try baseball.
Jeans party tonite. Less than 1 month til my b-day. Attorney girl still very pregnant and due in the next three weeks.
And, dear readers, haven't I done a good job of washing that dickwit right outta my hair??? It's been over 4 months. And I still think he's the biggest ass.
Monday, October 29, 2007
Or you can just call my bad ex boyfriend "Jackass of all trades."
First, the positive.
Date with Prison Break. Yum. Met him at 7:30. 2 beers turned into many. We talked til 1am. Lovely time. He's funny as hell. He's cute as hell. We texted and messaged a few times over the weekend. Yum is all I can say. Next steps? I don't know, as he's going to Florida with buddies for a long weekend. I'll take it from there. However, I get a message from him at least once if not twice a day, and I'm diggin' it!!
Costume party with Fun Girl, Philly Girl and other folks. WHOOHOO. Loads of fun. No boys involved, but man did I have a good time. Dancing. Love dressing up. Second weekend in a row for the pirate costume. Ran into that rocker I had the DISASTROUS make out session with over a year ago, and just said hi and flirted a bit.
Not a word from Concert boy since I turned him down for hockey tix on Friday at 4;30. That's just too late to ask for a Friday night date. He's still back-burner guy. I've decided to go solo to my friend's b-day dinner this weekend rather than ask him...
The ex? The ex got his frickin' ring back. He told me that if I did not stop telling people about the door (he doesn't want anyone to get the IDEA that he's abusive b/c he says he is not. Says being the key word. We all know how well his words match up with his actions...) then he's going to go to my ex and tell him I've been neglectful of my dog and mini me.
Good luck I say. I've got nothing to worry about here. Your empty threats no longer work on me. You did break the door in my house, and you were an ass in public to me on numerous occasions. People saw how you are...
My lawyer girl has now advised me to start taping every call I get from him, or just not answer altogether.
His mojo no longer works, and I still have no sympathy for him. The best thing I got out of the conversations was saying this:
If you cared about me as a person half as much as you care what people in general think about you, we would still be together. However, you care far too much what everyone - coworkers, friends, and people you haven't met - thinks of you that you have no room to care for people. And the thing is, people think about you a lot less than you imagine they do. People have full lives, with problems, and issues, and general good and bad stuff. They just don't go around thinking about Hags the Fag all the time.
Write more later or tomorrow - its busy Monday for me.
Friday, October 26, 2007
When I awoke this morning, I had no plans for tonite. I have a cold, and need to be at home I think.
By 10, got a Myspace from Prison Break guy:
You going to the party in BC? I'm iffy. My tennis matches are probably going to be moved to Sunday. Would love to catch up with you this weekend.
Yeah, me too. I'd like to catch up with you and torture you a bit, Prison Break guy.
By noon, we've made plans for drinks and to watch the hockey game at a bar between our respective houses.
By one, I get a long email from N, the ex, the one who recently fell off the list (albeit he's never near the top of that list, he's just always lurking) apologizing for his behaviour with the women in his life, etc. and apologizing to me for having to see him do that, apologizing for telling his gf that I was engaged so she would stop being weird about me, etc. Atonement. Plus a reference to a song we used to like 13 years ago...
Hmmm. Is he back on the list?
By two - a shorter, phone text from N the ex, more sorrys and some hopeful messages. Hmmmm.
By 3:45, an IM from a person who I used to work with, who I occasionally go to lunch with, who proceeds to ask me what I am doing this weekend (I tell him a date and a party) and then proceeds to tell me his wife is gone all weekend. Jesus H Christ he is after me! Egads. RS and RS2/Hotness - you guys know who this is?!
By 4, Concert Boy, who has season hockey tix, asks me to the game. Ugh. I say I have a cold (true) and leave it at that. I tell him I love hockey (I do!) and would love to go another night.
By 4:30, someone who should not be named in a ford contour has just dropped something off at my house. I see him sitting outside in the car, but 2 minutes later he's gone. And what did he drop off?
10 white envelopes, my 11th grade SVHS ID card and my GASP! college republicans ID card from freshman year.
I could do without that college republicans thing. Ruins the uber-liberal rep I have going. I was young, white and naive back then when Reagan was in office. Now I am older, less white, and less naive.
But WOW I really need these 10 odd sized envelopes. Yay envelopes. Whoohooo. Envelopes this weekend.
Homey - shout out to you! Hope the fires are far, far away today.
Sorry to call. Do you happen to know when you took the ties to Goodwill?
Yes, it was two weeks ago.
Sigh. Sighhhhhhhhhhh. Um. Okay.
If only he cared about people like he cares about himself. Leads me to these lyrics from a country song:
well, I hate to admit
when you dropped your hook I bit it
one look and you swept me away
when I dug a little deeper
it was obvious to see
you’re nothing more than just another pretty face
beauty, only skin deep
that’s all you think you need
nobody loves you like you do
you don’t need me to make your dreams come true
you’re your one and only so I’m leaving you to you
get a life, get a clue, get a grip, get it through your head
drop dead gorgeous
well you really had me going
but your colors started showing
what I saw wasn’t really my shade
now the picture’s getting clearer
maybe if I was a mirror then you couldn’t tear yourself away
baby your looks could kill
someday I hope they will
I sent this last night after drinking too much with friends, one of whom knows he who should not be named and was telling me stories about him hitting on a 23 year old in front of said 23 year old's boyfriend, who he happens to work with. I guess that sort of low behaviour set me off.
Just in case you need a tie anytime soon, your ties have been donated to the Goodwill on Lynn Rd. Don't even ask what happened to your Princeton ring....
Payback is a bitch,
(insert my name here)
Needless to say it prompted a response.
I was laying in bed, feeling rough b/c of the cold and the bourbon, and the phone rang. I had forgotten, call it that first wake up amnesia I've recently written about, about my short missive from the night before. But the phone ringing brought it all back, so I answered knowing I would have to face the music. Aw fuck why did I send it?
There was lots said. Him saying I'm mean and manipulative. Him saying that I care for no one else. Saying he really doesn't dye his hair, that he can't talk about me with people because he gets upset, that he doesn't understand why I feel the need to be mean to him...it goes on from there. He said, you've won, good living apparently isn't enough for you, you have to be mean, why do you have to be mean, what did I do to you but just protect myself?
(That is the funny thing about egoists. The harm they do is never intentional.)
Here are some exchanges:
Hags the Fag: People never ask me about you? Do you know why that is?
Me: Because you dumped me (and your callousness makes people uncomfortable)
Hags the Fag: No, because the few who did, when I talked, I ended up crying.
(Booo fucking hoo. How does it feel?)
Hags the Fag: Do you tell people you broke up with me in Houston? I bet you leave out the part about you being so moody and bitchy.
Me: Nope they know that. They also know the circumstances (hormones,prednisone) under which my body was operating. I've told people I was a bitch that weekend.
Hags the Fag: Then you called me back a few hours later, changing your mind, after you took that "test." I broke up with you to protect myself. I am not a guy who doesn't stay when times get tough.
Me: Chuckle. Whatever.
(Actually, yes yes you are that guy. You have become a walking cliche. You are the guy who leaves. You are the guy who didn't put into context that I just lost my job, lost half my hearing, and was facing some difficult choices. You cared naught for me, only for you. And honestly, this past spring and summer was the very time when I needed someone else caring for and about me. The very time. You didn't do it. You lost patience. Things were very, very bad for me and you ran. And I, and my great and wonderful friends, picked me back up and put me back together...)
He cried some. I didn't. I'm all cried out over him.
HtheF: Please tell me what you did with the ring. Please.
Me: If only you cared about people as much as you care about your stupid ring.
He said he cracked his ribs, god knows how, but he says he wasn't drinking. I tell this to Fun Girl, and again in her easy, breezy, wiser than she knows way, she says:
God, how did she get so good at putting so much into so few words.
Thursday, October 25, 2007
And he wasn't clinical, or honestly, particularly careful about it when it came down to making a move. It was good. Spontaneous. Passionate. And I didn't have to make a move on him for it to happen.
I'd give him a 7.5 or 8 on a scale of 1-10.
He also gets bonus points for the incredible bottle of wine he brought over. Impressive. Expensive and impressive.
Overall, a good night. He was attentive and gracious. He saw my yearbook and we looked through it and had some laughs. He gave up some fancy dinner at his restaurant to eat my dinner. We watched game 1 of the World Series (man I hate the Red Sox) and also got sucked into America's Most Smartest Model on VH1. Ad Girl, if you have not seen that show, check it out. 5 minutes and I was hooked.
That's all for now. I still need to catch up on Homey's visit here (so good to see you girl, be careful of those fires when you return home) and tell stories about Prison Break guy.
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
(Okay guys. This is where I am about ready to throw this guy to the curb. He's turning his issue into mine...)
NOTHING WRONG...key words there. He took all the passion out of this subject. I don't need to elaborate on what is actually wrong with that sentence. You guys can see it. Jesus H. Christ, is he patronizing me with that one or what?! All of you who know me, know that I'm comfortable with sex. I'm a bit of a slut. I think more like a guy. However you want to put it. He's making his issue into MY issue.
I've had that before. The difference is, now I recognize it.
He's coming over in less than two hours and I don't know whether I want to make him work really hard for this, or just jump in and see if he's as bad as everyone is predicting.
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Whenever I get lazy, I just write shit in lists. I'm trying to get caught up (honestly, this blog is weeks behind) so I'll do some random paragraphs about everything.
I coach gymnastics now, twice a week, while mini-me is training. Long story on how I got into this, but it takes her training costs to half of what they were with me putting in time on Mon/Wed nights. The girls I teach are awesome, for the most part, but one class in particular is really gassy. Not fart out loud gassy, but smelly, silent but deadly, you really need to take a shit gassy. Its the only drawback so far. That and the unbehaved kids (always one -two in every class.) I really don't like kids too much, but the ones that really want to learn, that are really trying, make it totally worth it.
I have been on seven dates, plus one run in over the weekend at Mosquito and Jackpot, with concert boy. I get an award (and probably some disbelief from several readers) for this one, as I have only, so far, kissed him. No making out, no sex. He's not groped or gotten to any bases yet. However, he's coming for dinner tomorrow night, and we'll see if I get to take a test drive.
So far, I've got a list that looks like this:
- Prison Break Guy
- Concert Boy
- Writer Boy - NYC
- Ex-bf from Junior High who is MIA
- Old rich guy who peed off the side of the boat
Number 1 deserves his own entry, and will follow this one. Met him two weekends ago, right after NYC, and he's really, really cool. Looks just like Wentworth Miller. Sweet, tall, mid-30's and about to be divorced (been separated for 10 months.) Works in pharma. Travels. Owns a house. I'm diggin this one.
Number 2 is so nice, so generous, so smart, and it doesn't hurt that he's well-off, but hasn't made a move on me yet. I'm diggin him too, but curious about what's going on. Is he courting me? Is he intimidated? Is he dating someone else he sleeps with and he's a date around but only sleep with one kind of guy? Is he gay? We'll find out tomorrow I suppose. Oh he's shorter than number 1, and you know I really dig tall.
Number 3 is on the list b/c personality wise, he's a 9.5. He loves my friends, he's confident, he's thoughtful, he's smart, and he can talk to anyone and NOT piss them off. However, he's number 3 on the list b/c he lives in NYC, he's young, equipment-wise I rate him a 5, but he moves up to a solid 7 in the sack based upon moves and sincerity.
Number 4 is on the list b/c he's always been on the list since I was 15. He contacted me back in August, and since then, crickets. This one is really puzzling. I think of him every day. He won't move off the list til he dies...
Number 5 is on the list for perseverance and as a safety. A girl's gotta eat. I'm wondering how many times I can turn him down before he gives up. The last call was asking me to go see Celtic Woman. Who buys tickets to that shit? Apparently, rich guys from NC that pee off the side of their boats.
People who were on the list as real or as back-ups and honestly, safetys, are now off:
- Ex from 10 years ago (N) -off for bad behaviour and being less than honest with women (other than me)
- Punk Boy - he's still so very very fun to flirt with and he was good in bed when actually able to perform but he's tiresome and a player and honestly, a drunk from time to time
- Ex from the lake - I am never going to be more than friends with this guy, so he's the safety that is off the list
- Saw Columbus Circle
- Walked Central Park West, until we found The Dakota
- Walked through the park, until we found a hot dog stand
- Ate said hot dog, the hot dog that had been keeping warm in the questionable looking water, very very quickly
- Walked down Fifth
- Saw amazing, yes utterly amazing shoes at Fendi that would cost more than a month's salary
- Went to H&M, and all scored well here
- Went to St. Patrick's Cathedral, sat and thought of Herbert for awhile
- Went to a cute cafe on E 54 near MoMA, and proceeded to have one of the more enjoyable lunches ever because of our group and our conversation
- Went MoMA spotting
- Got an attack of angry ass, no doubt because of that dirty water hot dog I ate, and I saw every bathroom on every floor of MoMA
- Changed at the hotel into party clothes, and proceeded to go out b/c that's what you do in NYC even if you are tired. I'll sleep when I'm dead!
- Got into an argument with a cabbie, who had no clue where he was going. He was trying to tell me he had taken me to E 7th Street, when clearly we were still on the west side in Washington Square Park. He eventually found our destination after I told him where to drive...he was only off by 7 blocks. Ha!
- Visited McSorley's - of New Yorker fame - and it did not disappoint
- Ate at Katz's with my friend T - and decided it was time to send a salami to my boy in the army
- Headed to Max Fish, where I got another attack of angry ass, and the bathrooms there are questionable at best. The first bathroom I entered had vomit next to the toilet - already! - at 10:15.
- Felt better after my bathroom escapades in Max Fish, and began to enjoy myself thoroughly, LES-style
- Headed to Darkroom, across the street, and stayed there much of the night. This place deserves its own entry because our group had such an amazing time there. The name is really apropos, its is dark everywhere, and everyone looks good as a result. You could get into serious beer google trouble in this bar. There were about 8 of us, all drinking heavily, meeting people, taking pictures, every single one of us smoked so we took turns going outside in groups of 3s. We danced. Flirted, It was just an awesome place, with a DJ who was mixing Don't Stop Believin with Timbaland with the Cure with New Order then onto old school Michael Jackson followed up by Return of the Mack and it just went on like that all night.
- Welcome to the Johnson's was the next stop, although we went the long way to get to a bar that was just down the street. The place was a cool dive, with cheap PBR and interesting hipsters. You get the picture. It was like I never left Raleigh. The first song playing as we walked in was the Cure, and I felt at home.
- At last call, a band came in to play, right off the street. They had a trumpet, a snare, a tuba, and a kick ass singer. It was quite loud, so my writer friend and I excused ourselves and headed outside to make out and smoke on the sidewalk. We could still hear the band outside, but made our own fun.
- I decided to forgo another trip to the loft bed, as it was past 4am, and headed back to the hotel with my friends. All of us very drunk, talking loudly. We're lucky we made it back. If I had been that cabbie, I would not have picked us up...
What THE FUCK am I doing in this loft bed near the ceiling? OMG.
My phone rings. Its fun girl, being the "mom" of the trip, making sure I am alive and okay and not laying in a gutter somewhere in the meat packing district. Yeah, I'm cool, coming back to the hotel now.
Not before we hit one last time. I mean, I'm still up in that loft, might as well get one last fling in.
I put on my dress. And I head for the bathroom.
WOW do I look bad. I'm not just saying this. I looked bad. My hair, because the loft was hot, had gotten all sweaty and almost afro-like. No make-up. Puffy eyes. I looked like I had been doing exactly what I had been doing, which is being somewhat of a drunk and a slut (even if it was for one evening.)
My friend gives me some cheap sunglasses, kisses me goodbye, and hails me a cab. I head uptown to the Hudson.
The walk of shame.
It is 10:30 am, and all the good people in the city - mostly tourists- are up and about with their starbucks and their muffins and their cameras. There's me, in my party dress, itty bitty purse, bright red patent leather heels, getting out of a cab at the Hudson. I know this goes on a lot there, and I wasn't the only one that morning returning to that hotel in such a manner, but it still feels weird when its you.
Up the yellow escalator. A woman and her 10 year old daughter to my right. I imagine I can hear her saying, "Don't ever be THAT girl..."
Lobby, very dark. I can barely see, but don't remove my sunglasses. At all. Not in the elevator bank (even darker than the lobby) and not in the elevator. I get to the room and knock.
"We don't accept your kind here..." says fun girl.
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Friday night. At the Hudson. We've drank all afternoon. Fun Girl, her brother and I. Mostly her brother and I, because Fun Girl attended a lecture at NYU. That's another story I'll get to another day. It is 8 at night, and I'm in the room getting freshened up for the night. I put on my jackie o black halo dress, and head down stairs to meet my NYC friend.
He is the guy I mentioned in a previous post - someone I met whilst down at Disney last October. It's been a whole year since we've seen each other, but there have been emails and phone calls in that time.
I walk into the outdoor bar at the Hudson - this could be my new favorite place in NYC by the way - and there's part of my entourage but no NYC friend. He arrives shortly after.
We mingle with fun girl, her brother, my friends from Raleigh, their friends from NY, you get the picture.
We talk about writing for awhile. The conversation gets strangely intense during this time, the only time of the night it was that way, and we leave it after 15 minutes to head back to frivolity.
Our group, one by one or rather two by two, drops away. Need to pass out. Need to sleep. Need to take the train home. My NYC friend and I are on our own at midnight.
We head to a rooftop bar on Fifth Avenue, making out feverishly in the cab. (I'm diggin' it - he's a bit husky for me but he knows what he wants and I'm getting more action from him in this cab than I did over 8 dates with concert boy.) The guy at the door gives me kudos on looking so young, he was visibly shocked when I handed him the ID. Good start. The place is playing cheesy music but the open-air roof view of Manhattan is so amazing that we don't care. Down some more bourbons. Talk about the city. Kiss a bit. He bites my neck. I love that movie Love at First Bite, so this turns me on in a slightly comical way.
We head down to SOHO, to the cafe where they filmed that scene in Unfaithful. You know the one where they have sex in the bathroom. No I didn't have sex in that bathroom, stop jumping to conclusions, all y'all. But the place was KEWL.
I had some sort of Mojo going in this place. I did not seem to have it anywhere else, but there, my god, I could not keep people away from me. Guys come and wait in the bathroom line to talk to me. They actually cut in the line to do this. Fights almost ensued. One guy asked me to sit and finish his dinner with him. An older gentleman at the bar wanted me to sit with him. Two german, yes authentic (uniforms and everything) german sailors won't let me pass til I talk to them. This all happened in the first 10 minutes. It was flirting whiplash, and a bit overwhelming.
I was worried about my "date" for the evening. I shouldn't have. He thought the whole thing was great, and got tons of amusement from it. And its a good thing, because the mojo did not wear off.
We got free drinks from the bartender or from god knows who at the bar. They were not bourbon shots. No too big for that. They were highballs with no ice and lots of bourbon.
I had another sailor approach me, while I was on the sidewalk with my friend smoking a cig, and he was nice looking. Fun Girl would have been all over this. He says he is Argentinian, but is a guest sailor on the German ship. I look at my friend, and the recognition in his eyes tells me he thinking what I am thinking: ahh that reciprocal shit is still going on between those two countries, even now in 2007...The argentinian asks me if I am taken, if this is "my husband" and I laugh and then my friend says, yes, yes I am her husband.
I suppose it is all in how you approach the world and your interaction in it. My friend chose to have fun, knowing full well who I was going home with that night.
So we walked to his place. And he's warning me about his bedroom.
I say, don't care if its a mess.
He says, its not like that.
I think, how bad could this be? I've been in small places before. And messy? Messy I can also hack, if just for a night, as I was once married to the messiest man on the planet.
The apartment is spacious by NYC standards. Nice kitchen, long hall, decent size living room. He wants to make out on the couch. I put my foot down there and said:
Unless you can assure me that your roommate is not home right now and is not coming home, I am not making out on this couch. I'm too old and my dress is too nice for this...
So, we go to the bedroom. Trepidation all over his face. He opens the door.
I don't see a bed. I see a few scattered clothes, and a desk. Some books. It's fairly dark, but I can see outlines of things. No bed.
I couldn't see the bed because it was suspended about 9 feet above us. And there, built into the wall, at a straight 90 degrees, was a long-ass-ladder.
Seconds turn into hours as I ponder this.
I decide to go for it. I look at him and say, there's no way I can climb that thing with this dress on. And I take it off, very quickly, and scamper up the long ladder in nothing but my thong and bra. What a site that must have been, my huge ass...
So I'm in the loft, and he climbs up too - naked I might add - and we proceed to make out and play other reindeer games. I liked the fact that I could actually put my feet up on the ceiling.
And that's the end of night #1 in NYC.
Tuesday, October 09, 2007
Dragons, Unicorns, Mermaids
This was above us on the A train when we first arrived in NYC, right after we dropped our bags off at The Hudson. Fun Girl looked at me and said:
If that isn't a sign from the universe of things to come, I don't know what is.
Indeed. There are 5 million stories in the big city, and I have about 20 of them from this past weekend. It was great. Fabulous. Not in that, things are bigger than life when you return home sort of way. In that, wow, I really needed to get out town, hang out with old friends and new in a new setting, and get a little drunk sort of way. In that change your world view, if only a bit sort of way. So I did that. I relaxed, I went with the flow. We went without agenda or plan, just with a list of potential addresses we might want to visit should we find ourselves nearby. This, I have now found, is key to having a good time.
That and not traveling with an asshole. That helps immensely as well.
But I digress.
Items in no particular order that made the weekend good and fun and crazy are listed below. And be aware, some of these are just previews to longer, funnier stories I'll get to this week.
Fun Girl and her brother together are a show. And when they drink and are happy, they are a really funny show. MoMA comps courtesy of my company. I got laid. Bourbon tastes good, especially when drank on a rooftop on Fifth Ave. Old friends from Raleigh have not changed, and they have not gotten less funny. Being with a man who thinks you are hot and smart and is not at all bothered but rather is actually gracious about the attention you get is so fucking refreshing it makes my head spin. The Upper East and West side are indeed worth it - believe the hype. And nothing tastes as good as corned beef and a vanilla egg cream at Katz's.
Club bathrooms with vomit could not dampen the fun we had. Overpriced drinks did not dampen the fun we had. An attack of angry ass did not dampen my fun. Walking blocks and blocks in super high heels did not dampen my fun. Having to sleep 3 of us to a bed did not dampen the fun.
Weltanschauung indeed. I came back refreshed in a very good, very healthy way. Here's to moving on with my life.
Wednesday, October 03, 2007
Homey - it made my day to know you're coming to visit. 'Bout time!
Ad Girl - miss you!
Hospital Diva - I need to bring mini-me down there soon so we can hang out.